Due to some old beliefs I had in my mind, which I had unconsciously picked up somewhere along the way, I equated being rejected with being a failure. Whenever I found myself in a circumstance in which I was subjected to rejection, I had the overwhelming sensation that I was unable to love myself. I believed that I was not good enough.
If I told you that I do not have such feelings right now, I would be lying to your face, therefore I won’t.
I had anticipated being hired for a job … I had a nearly unshakeable conviction that they would select me for the position. Nevertheless, a few days ago I received an official notification that I had been rejected. I had the idea, “Another failure in a string of many,” but I kept it to myself. You do not need to know what I was thinking or feeling at that moment.
The majority of the time, when I am trying to entirely eliminate a set of thoughts from my mind, those concepts will eventually flow to the surface.
Now that I have a better understanding of the bigger picture and of myself, I am aware that, despite the fact that rejection hurts, there are occasions when it actually does us no harm at all. In fact, we sometime need rejection for our own personal growth and development.
And here’s something else I’ve learned: it’s not rejection; rather, it’s a redirection.
There is a big difference between what we believe is best for us and what really is best.
How to get mentally stronger after rejection?
If you’ve been rejected, it’s only natural to feel disappointed, hurt, and even angry. But it’s important to remember that rejection is a normal part of life. Everyone experiences it at some point, and it doesn’t mean that you’re less valuable.
The most important thing you can do after being rejected is to focus on taking care of yourself. This means taking the time to grieve and process your emotions. It’s also important to stay positive and take care of your mental health. Here are a few tips to help you get mentally stronger after rejection:
1. Acknowledge your feelings
The first step is to acknowledge your feelings. It’s okay to feel sad, angry, or hurt after being rejected. Allow yourself to grieve and process your emotions. Don’t try to bottle them up or pretend they don’t exist.
People that are mentally strong admit when they are feeling ashamed, hurt, or disappointed, which demonstrates that they are in touch with their real feelings. They are more likely to recover from their pain in a healthy manner if they confront their feelings head-on.
2. Talk to someone you trust
Everyone, regardless of their personality type, despises the feeling of being rejected since it is brutally painful. On the other hand, we each experience rejection in our own unique way. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, it can be helpful to talk to someone you trust. This could be a friend, family member, therapist, or counselor. Talking about your feelings can help you feel better and start to process what happened.
3. Stay positive
It’s important to stay positive after being rejected. Rejections, regardless of how awful they make you feel, are not always bad. They can even serve as great motivators to propell you to increase your efforts and aim higher in the pursuit of your goals. Rather than allowing yourself to be depressed for too long, use the rejection as a chance for contemplation and self-analysis.
If an employer does not want to hire you, you can come to the conclusion that you are utterly incapable of doing the job. Or, if a lover turns their back on you, you can conclude that you don’t have any appeal. However, making broad generalisations about something based on the viewpoint of a single person will only slow you down.
4. Take care of yourself
Make sure you’re taking care of yourself mentally and physically. This means eating a healthy diet, getting enough sleep, and exercising. It’s also important to do things that make you happy and relax.
5. Set boundaries
If you’re feeling overwhelmed by the rejection, it’s okay to set boundaries. This could mean taking a break from social media, avoiding certain people or places, or not talking about what happened.
6. Move forward
The most important thing you can do after being rejected is to move forward. This doesn’t mean forgetting what happened or pretending it didn’t affect you. But it’s important to focus on the future and not dwell on the past.
How do you act normal after rejection?
Rejection at any point of our life, does not necessarily mean that there is something fundamentally flawed about us. It does not imply that we are of less value, that we are not good enough, or that we are unable to extend our wings and fly… so allow me to assure you that we most certainly are.
Rejection has a hidden blessing that it hides from us, despite how difficult it is for us to accept it. Perhaps in the given moment we will not be understand the reason, and we will not comprehend what is going on. However, after some time has passed, we will come to the realisation that everything is occurring for some purpose, the reason that is best for us, and we will be grateful for whatever happened.
I know I am. I am grateful for the knowledge that the unseen hand of God guides my path, and I have faith that every setback serves as an opportunity for growth and new opportunities. A new opportunity. Every rejection brings us one step closer to achieving our goals. Closer to our dreams and achieving them. Ready for something bigger.
Rejection teaches us that somewhere between all our plans, desires and expectations life happens. All the situations that knock us off our feet are happening. There are challenges and difficulties in which we become aware of our courage and will to change. Rejection teaches us patience, improves our determination. We understand things better and also learn to accept ourselves.
It teaches us to maintain a state of harmony with our own principles at all times. It teaches us that the only approval that truly matters is our own, and that we do not need the acceptance of others but simply our own, because that is the only approval that truly matters.
How do you deal with rejection and have you ever had a situation where you were rejected from something only to be redirected to something better? Tell me your experiences in the comment section.